Being a leader isn’t easy. You’re judged on how you react, respond and show up for others in every interaction – whether you’re consciously aware of it or not.
I like asking my clients about where their focus is, what they are paying the most attention to, and how they’re showing up for others. Often there’s a gap between intentions and actions.
One client Julie, talked about every initiative across her team with care and commitment. Although she believed she was calm and composed, what I saw was stress and anxiety about her workload delivery. She was unaware her stress was so visible to others – while she ran late from one meeting to another.
It’s what we do, not what we say, that drives trust and respect in relationships
Every business needs to focus on implementation and results. However, often what is neglected is the working environment in which the results are being achieved in.
As the leader, your standards – how you show up for others – sets the tone for how everything is done. It starts with you. Every decision you make – every action or non-action – tells others what you care about.
- Lead by example
Every action you make gives others an indication of the ethical standards you live by.
Here are some signs you may not be staying true to your word:
- You say you value achievement, but your team feel that they aren’t recognised or appreciated
- You say you value integrity, but you hear someone in your team complaining about someone else and you choose to say nothing
- You say you value respect, but you often show up late to meetings
- You say you value creativity, but someone in your team believes their ideas won’t go anywhere so they don’t speak up anymore.
What are you currently letting yourself off the hook for that you know you shouldn’t be?
Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. — Anthony Robbins
- Be clear on your values
It’s important to understand what drives your leadership and who you want to be. Ask yourself these questions:
- Who is the leader I want to become?
- What standards do I need to set in order show up as who I want to be?
- What traits do I need to cultivate?
- What new behaviours do I need to adopt?
- Assess the reality vs the ideal
- What standards do I currently live by?
- Where could I potentially be better?
- Make commitments, and stick to them
- What new rituals / what must I do every day to live my values?
- What’s going to get in the way that I need to overcome?
- What will I now expect of myself consistently with these standards in place?
Leadership is not about being perfect. It’s about being effective and congruent with your values and beliefs. Every single day.
What one new ethical standard could make you an even more effective leader?