A common strategy for feeling confident and in control is to prepare and rehearse to ‘get it right. Like, for example, when everyone in the room has a turn to speak and, before it’s your turn, you spend the entire time figuring out what to say – and not listening to others before you.
What happens though when you’re put on the spot? Do you have the leadership voice you need to speak up, speak out and lead in a conversation?
Your true confidence relies on your relationship with you rather than your perceived sense of control.
Mark knew he was an inconsistent leader. Sometimes he had the confidence to back himself and speak up. Other times though – especially in front of more senior leaders – he’d allow his nerves to get the better of him, resulting in him keeping quiet or giving too much detail in an answer. Mark believed this pattern was costing him his next step up, fuelling his negative self-talk even more.
I work with just as many men and women who desire greater confidence.
The key to confidence is being clear about who you are and how you want to show up—regardless of the situation or environment.
You can’t wait for confidence to show up. It won’t. Being vulnerable in the face of judgement and uncertainty is tough AND it’s the path to confidence. Because it allows you to discover who you are, what you’ve got and what you can do.
Courage, confidence and conviction are linked to your preparedness to take action in the face of fear.
What if you had the confidence you wanted all the time? What conversations and experiences would you have? Learn how to bridge your confidence gap in three key steps.
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